Frequently Asked Questions

What is counselling?

Counselling is a space for you - to talk, to feel heard and understood, to have a place free from judgement or expectations.

It is an opportunity to talk about what troubles you, to be listened to in a way that helps you understand yourself better - your thoughts, feelings and behaviour. This understanding can help you make decisions about how to live your life more positively or peacefully.

You could say it's about helping you become your own expert on you. Counselling is always working towards the point where it is no longer needed, giving you the confidence and knowledge to deal with whatever comes your way yourself. 

The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP) is a professional body of which Debbie is a member. They have produced a number of helpful information resources which you can find an index of here.

How is that different from talking to friends or family?

It can be hard to talk to those closest to us about something we are struggling with. We think they will worry or over-react or maybe just not understand. Friends and family, out of concern, may want to 'fix' us or give lots of advice, which can add to feelings of pressure. Or perhaps they are part of what is hard about life at the moment.

Counselling provides a clear space, focused on your needs and your story that helps you find your own solutions.

Will anyone else know what I tell you?

Trust and feeling safe are very important in counselling so all sessions at Solace are confidential. That means what you say in our sessions is not repeated. There are a some legal exceptions to this such as criminal offences or when you or someone else is at risk.

The British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP) has strong ethical standards for how counsellors behave, including with regard to confidentiality. To read more about this click here.

How do I know if it will work for me?

Coming for counselling requires some courage to take the first step to help yourself, and a bit of curiosity: Why do I feel the way I do? Why do I behave like this? What do I want for myself, my life?

If you have even a little courage, curiosity and desire for change then counselling could really help.

You don't have to be in crisis to come to Solace. Perhaps you are fed up feeling anxious about a particular thing or dissatisfied with life in general. Maybe you feel burnt out and don't know how to get more balance in your life. Solace can provide a space to talk through anything that is difficult for you and find new ways of being.


Information on fees and what's involved in coming to Solace can be found here: